Parenting is teamwork ( Click image to see special price!! )
I am one of those men who the good fortune to be in a situation to have a child with someone who shares parenting philosophies. It did not start that way because in most other aspects of our lives, we were complete opposites. Everything from our education, our profession, even our zodiac signs are polar opposites. How did we manage to come together perfectly in raising our son?
Defined roles
From the moment was the mother of my son's pregnant, we knew we had to findcommon ground. We talked extensively about parenting, philosophies, and our roles. I'm not going to say we agreed on everything, but we both understand that children need defined roles from their parents. These roles will be reinforced by the other, so that the child understands that remain in the absence of one of the words, rules and disciplines of the other parent maintained. Mothers are mothers, and of course more care than fathers. Not all the time, but much of the time.Fathers are more and more seen as a fatherly strength and disciplinarian. We support each other in our interaction with our son so that he understands at any time that happens in her house … will be extended to me. Sometimes I am brought to the "serious talks". My sons' behavior is sometimes different to his mother, so we have conversations with him to explain that we are united in all aspects of his life. Home, school and play.
Attention
Parenting is not aeasy task. Parents are discovering the edge of children who they are pushed. But the burden of responsibility can be reduced with each parent maintaining the authority and other values. As the mother of my son calls me and tells me something about my son had done in school or his grades drop, or other disaster boys get to expand their disciplines in my house. My son does not get any 'holiday' for whatever punishment she has managed. I respect their decision. IRespect to their rules. If there is no TV in their house, no TV in my house. No Playstation in their house, no Playstation in my home … You get the idea.
Acceptance
For all the advice I was born before my son got the best of my step-father was. "Just shut up and do what needs to be done!" It was great advice. No matter, what does my son, we find a way to make it happen. It is not always easy or pleasant, but parenting is not about convenience. Her eyes and the heart isTell them what needs to be done. You could argue time and energy to it, or you can just get it done. Many people make life difficult for themselves with their parents on issues which have to fight to be made independent. Remember, in many cases, we choose as parents, children do not choose their parents. We must understand that not all things are possible. So we should not feel guilty about not able to do more than we do. Parenting is a selfless act,and should always be made as such. True to do and consistent with your values, what must be done within your means ability will ensure your child will always see parents, arguing that only rarely and are always in their support, unified rules and respect for each other. And the mutual love love guidance for their child.
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